Posted on August 05 2015
Just finished "The Marriage Plot," a novel by the Pulitzer Prize winning author Jeffrey Eugenides whom I'm now officially obsessed with. Brilliantly written and cleverly inspired by the romantic era of Jane Austin with a modern twist as three 'Ivy League' college grads (circa mid 80's) explore their spirituality, sexuality, and mental stability. It reads like the deepest knowings of one's pursuit of intimacy... The likeness of those who find it, those who lose it, and those who willfully let go. Which got me thinking about love and marriage, its roads less traveled and paths well worn. What is love after all, if not the grand design of mystery and wonderment- arrivals when you least expect it and departures when time sees fit. It's pure magic and utter madness all rolled up into one magnificent utterance of poetic adjustments. Love is a cup runneth over of enthusiasm, and admittedly a flask of heartbreak... It's a joyful work of art, splattered by strokes of pain... It's the happiest of moments that take our breath away, intermixed with intense sadness that inevitably make us stronger... It's the most frightening and seemingly rewarding rollercoaster ride of our lives, where undeniable risks are paralleled only by amazing once in a lifetime adventures. What more could we ask for? Yes, I may currently be single, but I've also been madly, deeply and wholeheartedly in love- not once, but twice, and from what I hear, third times a charm, ha! And, if there's one thing I've learned, it's that there's no right or wrong path to love. It doesn't come with directions, so if you feel lost every now and then, just remember- you're exactly where you need to be. Sometimes, getting lost is the only way to truly find yourself AND to find love. The truth is, there's no mapping of the heart to guide our efforts, and no how-to instructions for love's compatible construction, regardless of how much we wish there were. We can't deny love, as much as we can try to control it, which in both cases, are irrefutable. Our only hope when the stars of love align, is to surrender with full transparency, and utter vulnerability. And if the timing is off, or you're just not ready, don't fret! To quote my favorite author Paulo Coelho, "Love is like a kaleidoscope. It's in constant movement and never repeats itself." Hence, like each of us- love perpetually changes and will serendipitously find us again in a different space and time when we're more receptive to its vibrational frequency. So, take it from me and enjoy the ride. Be as present as possible, pay attention to the world in plain sight, and above all, trust that life is giving you exactly what you need, at the moment you need it!